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Oct 23, 2021Liked by Don Akchin

You bring up so many good points, Don. Fortunately, my parents have been very proactive (future funerals planned and paid for) and my father, 12 years younger than my mother, is making decisions for her care without any opposition. I’m guilty of getting sentimentally attached to objects which my parents are eager to get rid of. So, I might be that person hoarding plates and such later!

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You are fortunate to have such proactive parents.

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Thanks for this, Don. I’m dealing with this with my parents. They don’t want to deal with uncomfortable realities and are dragging their feet. I feel like pushing them to get their estate in order makes it seem like I’m thinking only about my inheritance or that I’m eager for them to pass, neither of which is the case.

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They need to understand that thinking ahead takes a burden off you. Good luck getting that across!

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Don, as I may have told you, I have just concluded my mother's estate settlement - 3 and a half years after her death - in Orphans Court, because she did not have a will. It has ended well; my brother now owns her house, and I have inherited some of her prized possessions.

In contrast, an aunt and uncle made the prescient decision to move to a senior community, where they spent many active years before transitioning to the eldercare unit, where they receive critical 24-hour care for their health needs.

It is now my turn to plan my own future, starting with writing a will. Hard work, indeed.

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Indeed. But now you know exactly what happens if you don't do the hard work.

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Jerry, thanks for sharing that story.

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