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Jun 19, 2022·edited Jun 19, 2022Liked by Don Akchin

Don, so beautifully written. It made me cry for several reasons. Further proof that one never knows what another is going through. I remember your dad clearly….often your family sat a few rows back. I remember him walking your youngest brother (who looked like a miniature version of your dad) into Sunday school. I suppose most of the congregation had no idea that your dad suffered from bipolar disorder. So we kids who knew you were never able to hug you and say we were sorry your life may have been difficult. For me it was different: on the outside everyone could see how disabled my mom was after her stroke at age 48; nobody could really tell what it did to me and my mental/emotional health. Somehow we turned out OK, didn’t we? So here is the big hug I would have given you when we were kids 🥰. With love, Amy (Lerner) Comolli.

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Thank you, Amy, for the hug and the kind words. I guess most of us are like icebergs most of the time, 90% hidden from view.

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I remember how devoted your father was to your mother after her stroke. He set a great example of love for better or worse.

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Jun 19, 2022Liked by Don Akchin

Thank you for sharing such beautiful thoughts about your Dad and continuing to let your friends and family know your true self. It is a gift to all of us. Happy Father's Day!!

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Thank you for those kind words, Betty.

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Jun 21, 2022Liked by Don Akchin

Don, sorry it took so long to read and reply to your post. My dad was an injured Army combat officer from WWII - a highly thought of teacher during the day, but an alcoholic at home. So many men from that era didn't share their personal struggles or pain for fear of what you described (or as John Wayne put it showing "a sign of weakness"). Just like manna in the desert, God gives us just what we need, just when we need it. Often it may seem like otherwise, but all of us are proof that He has a plan much greater than what the world tells us. Your ability to weave that picture into your eulogy of your father was wonderfully done. Thanks!

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Thank you, Jim, and thank you for sharing part of your own story.

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Jun 21, 2022Liked by Don Akchin

Beautiful xx

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beautiful tribute to your father. he was indeed dealt a bad hand. but he did all the things that you described. thank you for a lovely and loving tribute.

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Thanks, Lucile. I'm glad it resonated with you.

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Wow!! I loved reading this and getting to know you a bit better too. Brought tears to my eyes. We just never know other peoples stories. If more people shared their stories like this it would be a more empathetic loving world.

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Thank you, Michelle. I am so glad you enjoyed it.

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Jun 19, 2022Liked by Don Akchin

Wow, how does a fella add to 41 beautiful comments on your wonderful triibute to your Father, Don. Don't recall ever meeting him during our days at Shreve, but after reading your tribute, felt like I knew him well.... a special guy for sure. Great job Don as we all celebrate our Dads on this special day. You show your inherited courage in so many ways. Happy Father's Day....all the best.

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Thank you, Jeff. I appreciate your kind words.

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Jun 18, 2022Liked by Don Akchin

What a beautiful tribute to your father, Don. I remember meeting him once or twice many years ago. I can only imagine how pleased he would have been to see this.

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Thank you, Bill. I fondly remember your father trying to explain Skittles (it was Skittles, wasn't it? Something to do with a spinning top and wooden figures on a game board) to a very confused 9-year-old me.

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Jun 18, 2022Liked by Don Akchin

It was indeed. It’s still in our basement, gathering dust, waiting for us to play a round if you’re ever in North Carolina. Always enjoy reading The Endgame, Don.

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Thanks, Bill. Let's work at setting up that round soon.

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This is a masterpiece of empathy and great writing. I'm grateful to you for sharing it with us.

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Susie, I am grateful for your lovely comment. Thank you.

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A beautifully written, heartfelt tribute, Don. Your father clearly gave more than he took, and if your siblings are anything like you, he succeeded in creating a family to be proud of. Your piece promotes positive values, and will help your readers cope with issues like depression in themselves and their loved ones.

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Thanks for those kind words, Sean.

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As Don’s youngest brother, I am proud of my Dad and of my siblings for being the parents each of them are to their kids. Our parents did so much with very little, yet we were rich in ways far greater than monetary wealth. Thank you for your comments on Don’s piece. I teared up from your comment.

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A good story of a good man. Small wonder that his son grew up to be a mensch himself.

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Some would dispute that, but I appreciate your comment. Thanks, Brian.

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I remember once Oprah said that the only thing she ever really wished for, she couldn't buy: having been a wanted, loved child. You're a rich man, Don.

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I like your perspective. Thanks!

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So moving and so honest. Thanks for sharing this.

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Thank you, Amy.

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Great piece Don

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Thanks, Randall.

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You are as strong as your father. Thanks for sharing with an open heart some vulnerable parts of your life. I'm sure your kids have inherited your traits and absorbed other wonderful qualities you have.

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I am hopeful that you're right. Thanks!

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Courage, a trait worth inheriting! Inspiring 🤓😎 Thank you for sharing 👍🏽

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Thank you for reading and for your comment. Most appreciated.

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