Choose from (mostly) appropriate retorts to challenge ageist assumptions.
This is an important discussion on a form of discrimination and stereotyping that is often outside the awareness of many people - even those who are treated disrespectfully don't always recognize it. And, sometimes people who are older will reinforce ageist messages by their own self-talk. "I'm just getting old."
I appreciated the points you included about how to respond to ageist communication. I would add that sometimes I find humor works well to. For example, if a young person calls me "sweetie," I might loudly laugh and say, "Wow, so you think I'm sweet?" Then I might intentionally use some nonverbal behaviors (including vocalics) that suggest I am surprised at the remark. I often use other strategies--many that you mentioned--but find that using some form of humor helps me connect with the person and creates a teachable moment.
Oh, I just might get in trouble for this one.
As I began my group conversation LIVEstreaming career, Don Akchin was right there, taking a chance on me, and jumping in as a Guest on the VERY first maiden voyage of "Aspects of Aging."
100 unique guests later (some have asked to come back a second or third time) I will now tattle on my hubby/producer. We'd done a lot of recording of my PreAct Your Age content, interviews, and clips for posts and Aging Better Website.
With LIVE, there would be no editing, no 'do-overs.' Raw and real--3, 2, 1 and we are LIVE.
My husband made this suggestion. He said, "You might want to use an optional digital camera filter to help smooth out your wrinkles for your shows." ...oh, good grief...seriously...do you even listen to my content... I, too, trudge the deep trenches of Ageism. Looking younger is SO ingrained.
Those are great responses. I will have to practice.
I'm sure I lean more towards Firm Rebuttal and Inner Groucho!
I've been using the "young man/young woman" stuff. I intend it to be a sweet comment. You think I'm wrong using it?
I LOVE this so much! Thanks for your shout out to Changing the Narrative
Good choices to help raise awareness of how we can respond. Depending on the day we might feel like being PC and other times.....
Good responses, all. Ashton Applewhite also likes to respond to "You look good for your age" with a hearty, "So do YOU!"